Among friends, coworkers, and even family members, there will always be those people who have attitudes that are toxic and demeaning. Relating to these kinds of people can be very difficult and challenging. So, how are you supposed to deal with these kinds of people?
Here are some tips on how you should approach toxic people:
1. Set limits.
A toxic person will always try to make you swim in their own sea of problems. These people don’t bother looking for solutions and are likely to pressure other people to join them in their misery.
It’s important that you understand the difference between listening to other people’s problems and getting yourself involved in the emotional roller coaster of a toxic person. You need to know how to set limits and distance yourself when needed.
2. Don’t ask for or expect change.
When you expect people to change, you are unconsciously creating a resistance in people. Of course, you don’t want to be responded to with a tone or blame, disapproval, or rejection by a toxic person. Thus, you just need to offer feedback and leave the decision to the toxic person. You can’t demand instant change and you shouldn’t demand actions.
3. Avoid engaging in fights with toxic people.
Successful people understand the importance of storing energy. You need to learn how and when to use your energy, so when dealing with a toxic person, you should manage your emotions well. Choose your battles wisely and know when it is time to engage in a fight.
4. Never let anyone to restrict your happiness.
You shouldn’t allow the opinion of other people to determine what makes you happy. You must be in control of your own happiness. Be sure to celebrate the things you have accomplished and don’t let your celebration be affected by the opinions of toxic people.
5. Don’t forget, but move on.
If a toxic person has done something to offend or insult you, all you need is to move on, but don’t forget what they have done to you. This way, you can protect yourself from future harm. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t learn how to forgive, but it’s important that you not get involved in a toxic person’s mistakes in the future.
6. Surround yourself with supportive people.
You need to understand that dealing with toxic people can be very exhausting, especially if you do it alone. To avoid getting stressed out, you should surround yourself with supportive people, or those who will stay with you even during tough situations.
7. Get enough rest.
You need to stay proactive, creative, and positive if you don’t want to be affected by the toxic people around you. Thus, it’s important that you get enough rest and sleep. This will help you manage your stress levels, so you could also be recharged and ready to battle with toxic people.
As someone in a leadership role, you need to be able to manage your emotions so that you can successfully find solutions to the problems you are dealing with. Focus on how to develop yourself and improve your situation, and you can only do this by keeping stress at bay and by keeping a positive mindset.